As a Psychologist, a big part of my life involves being honest with people. I give tough feedback a lot.   I work with teams to seek out the thing that no one wants to address and I sit by it with a picnic blanket and a torch light .   I hope that for many people I give them space to accept what are difficult thoughts and know that there is little gained from their avoidance.   Which is why it is not a proud moment for me to reflect lately that I’m not always very honest with myself. I was inspired a few months ago by watching Jia Jiang’s Ted Talk and the wisdom that grew from exposinghimself to 100 days of rejection .   Jiang found that beyond the firewall of shame and fear came a sense of freedom he couldn’t have imagined. Once he stopped trying to avoid rejection he achieved great things. What’s this got to do with being honest with myself? Well I’ve been thinking a lot about feedback – specifically why people find it so hard to give.   I’ve realised with increas